Just maybe praise your haters.

Hater: noun,
—Synonyms 1. loathe, execrate; despise. Hate, abhor, detest, abominate imply feeling intense dislike or aversion toward something. Hate, the simple and general word, suggests passionate dislike and a feeling of enmity..

As i was scrolling thru, reading one of my favourite artists my space page: T.I. (yes females, i am one of a trillion fans lol)

I noticed he had recently added some beautiful pictures of his babies mother, Tiny, who back in the day was a member of the all girl Rn'B group "Exscape".

Underneath this lovely picture were heinous comments written by a handful of T.I's females fans, now it is none of my business how other females feel about T.I's choice in women, nor i feel is it any of theirs.

Were did this girl on girl hatred come from? We as women should be praising one another for getting our grind on, following our dreams and staying true to the people we care about the most, But it doesn't seem like it in this day and age.

Instead we have to deal with the sourness that emanates from fellow females when we ourselves have something or have done something to be proud of.

Apart from already having so much negativity brought forth onto females by the media, which never fails to let us know how we should look, what diet we should be on and how to get rid of that "ergh" fat under your bra. (which is totally normal, seriously i like to think mine keeps me warm in the wintery months lol)

Now we have to deal with negativity being brought forth by fellow females.

You would think because of the media's translation of "A perfect woman" we would all stand together, praise each other and offer support instead of criticism.

Nope... because now it seems to be ok to HATE on another woman for what she is accomplishing with her life.

There has even been songs/ t-shirts with the word "Hi Hater" as subject matter.

Katt Williams: comic/actor and now diplomats member stated a now memorable phrase, a phrase in which i never fail to smile about when i'm walking down the street hand in hand with my husband, him proudly black and me proudly white.

After i'm thrown a sour look from a female or over heard yet another unnecessary comment made towards me.

"If there's anyone out there who has noone to hate on, feel free to hate on me. Say i'm not the shit bitch, when you know I is!"

Whilst finding it difficult to understand why it is now considered ok to hate on someone and sometimes even cool, as i know of those young girls who are in highschool, popular, pretty and might i add, bitchy.

Pride themselves on being "Haters"

I can't think of any better of an answer than good old jealousy, that green eyed monster which occasionally eats away at all of us sometimes, has reared its ugly head in the now dominant female world.

I also like to think that this female to female "hatred" keeps us pushing on, keeps us grounded, only makes us better, makes us want to try harder.

So the next time your walking down the street, minding your own business and you get hated on, smile to yourself and be grateful for your haters because secretly they are our biggest fans, the ones that make us as strong and determined as we are today.